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What if I don’t want to compete? Simple. If you’re ready, initiate a monogamous relationship with her and see if she goes for it. If she's ready and you are the type of guy who is Honest, Loving and Willing, and you are a good match for her, she'll be tickled pink and most likely accept. Plan OVER. If you’re not ready to be in a monogamous relationship with her, then it is her perogative to date others, don't you think? At least this way, you know what she’s up to and the parameters she’s using. Isn’t this bitch just USING ME? In a way, she is. She uses every Plan Man as a way to explore herself, her behaviors, her patterns. She gets to figure out what makes her suck at love and what makes her soar. She is using you to learn to be fearless and gracious and compassionate. She is using you so that she might learn not to judge too hastily, not to put too much pressure on a man she’s only gone on one or two dates with, not to obsess over every email, every text. She is using you to become the kind of dream girl that every man is looking for. She is using you to become the kind of woman that she truly wants to be. She is using you to learn to be honest, loving and willing so that she might attract the same qualities in a man. She may be doing all of this work so she can be the right woman for YOU. Is that so bad? How does the 4MPlanner benefit ME? You get to date a girl that is not digging her baby-wanting, husband-hunting claws into you right out of the gate. You get to date a girl that is getting support from other women that are making sure that she is treating you right and not acting crazy. You get to date a girl that’s not sleeping around, lying, or crying her eyes out because you forgot to call when you said you would. A 4MPlanner is okay with a guy that is busy sometimes, might be dating others, and has other priorities in his life. You get to date a girl that’s got three other guys that can drive her to the airport or go to her niece’s bat mitzvah with her so you’re off the hook! 4MPlanners are FUN. Also, unless you’re the Ickies, approach a 4MPlanner and you’re sure to get a friendly conversation and a YES to a date. Why 4 Men? It's really just multiple men. A modern day dance card if you will. The concept is actually quite old-fashioned, really. A 4MPlanner is not giving it up to every guy on her Mantris Graph, she's just getting to know an assortment of men so that she might make a healthy choice for herself and not just jump into something that may not be right for her or the man involved. It's really just a thoughtful, slower, less gut wrenching approach to entering into a relationship. Plus, she's looking to see if her "type" may be something completely different than she imagined. What can I do to HELP? I’m so glad you asked!! You can be honest, loving and willing and prove to her that good guys like you DO exist, everywhere! Can I do The Four WOMAN Plan? I've been inclined to say no, but I've recently been urged to rethink it. I certainly can't STOP a man from doing it. So we are welcoming men willing to share their experiences into our Forum. The only caveat being so far that when you HALVE a woman you not only tell her that you are seeing others, but you tell her about THE FOUR MAN PLAN, so that if she so chooses she can do the 4MP simultaneously, just to be fair. Who knows? It's just crazy enough to work! |
