FAQs

Why do I need a PLAN?

Making a plan is not an act of desperation. It is the ultimate expression of faith and optimism. A plan simply outlines a design whose completion with still require divine input, surprise assistance, and all the other good stuff that makes life fun. It channels your efforts and articulates the intent that your desires are meant to be brought to life. Making a plan and sticking to it helps you weather the inevitable ups and downs that are inherent in obtaining anything worthwhile.

What is the point of dating 4 or more men at once when I'm just looking for one? 

Dating multiple men simultaneously gives a gal LOTS of data. Suddenly it's not about your current target and what's wrong with HIM and why isn't this working out, but about where your patterns are, how you are the common denominator, and sussing out what makes you wonderful and what makes you suck at love, regardless of whether it's with Tom, Dick or Harry. YOU hold the key to your own happiness; the more you can enjoy yourself and bring awareness to EVERY situation, date and relationship, the more ready you become for true love. True love is only possible when you completely love yourself, and the 4MP causes you to seek it within yourself and see it reflected back to you, instead of trying to get it from an outside source. When that outside source (Plan Man) is constantly changing you learn to depend on yourself for love. The other great thing about dating multiple guys is side by side comparisons. Often we hook ourselves into the NEXT guy, without spending time to figure out if he's the RIGHT guy. Do yourself a big favor, shop around. They are.

Is the math hard?

I'd say it hovers somewhere around an eighth grade level. It's delightfully juvenile.

I'm so busy, will I even have TIME to date 4 men?

It's up to each girl to work the Plan into her schedule.  Honestly, even if we have one guy we are kind of interested in, don't we spend A LOT of time obsessing and analying and bitching and moaning about the poor guy? By having your men organized and in your Mantris graph, you will come to realize it takes less time to have a few fun phone calls and a couple of dates a week than it does to tear your hair out over ONE guy that's just not that into you.

Honesty is a HUGE part of the Plan. It is the 4MPlanner's job to work the fact that she's "enjoying dating even though she could be ready for a relationship if the right person came along". If a man get's angry that you are not exclusive by date 3, I think that would be his problem not yours, right? 

Keeping your knees together is also part of the Plan. It's not that you don't get to have sex, but you will learn to choose wisely and not spoil any chances at a real relationship by being indiscriminate with your hoo-ha.

Does The Plan really work?

Well, I'm married, and The Four Man Plan is how I went from sucking at love to hooking up with the most honest, loving and willing man I've ever met. And there are four juicy success stories in the back of the book. Dozens of grass roots 4MPlanners had varying degrees of success: from new relationships, to getting their mojo back, to reducing the heartache and chaos of dating. Like most other things, the more you put into it, the more you get out of it.

HOW does the Plan work? 

It works by changing the way you think about men, dating and love. It's possible that you are still single simply because you are hanging on to some tired old beliefs about how this love thing is supposed to work. The Plan trades in your old closet of thoughts and gives you a whole new wardrobe of love ideas. Try them on, see how they fit, how they make you feel. Bottom line, it's a whole new you. 

Where am I going to meet all these men?

In this day and age, where else? The internet. It's no longer creepy or weird or just filled with a bunch of lurkers. EVERYONE knows someone that met their spouse or mate on line. In fact, most of my success stories are from people taking a risk and getting online. I have two favorite sites right now:

1) Match.com - They are the biggest, with the widest network and you can shop until your hearts content. Wink, flirt, get a lot of practice and enough Quarter Men to fill a water jug. 

2) Chemistry.com - They do a little matchmaking for you, which I like. And Dr. Helen Fisher, their chief consultant, loves to blend science and love. Ah, a woman after my own heart.

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What's with the giant cock and balls in that graph?